There are tons of dating and relationship blogs and channels that tell you to “be mysterious” to spice up your relationships. They want you to keep your emotions to yourselves. They abstain you from pouring your heart out to your partner for creating “attraction.” Ever questioned the authenticity of their judgment? Well, I have and to me, they are WRONG!
All this planning and plotting may help you in short term relationships but it’s not a journey worth going on if you want to build beautiful long – term relationships. We are human beings and hence social interaction with other people is almost inevitable and unavoidable. So, we might as well make those experiences worth it. It’s absolutely okay to be vulnerable in relationships. As a matter of fact, it’s the biggest secret for stronger relationships.
Vulnerability doesn’t make you weak. It is having the courage to be yourself and involves emotional exposure. We all have had serious relationship troubles in the past, maybe with our family, our spouses, our friends, our boyfriends/girlfriends. Like you, I, too have gone through emotional trauma and pain. But, does that mean that I will shut down myself from the endless possibilities of love that this universe has to offer? Hell NO! Yes, there is a fear, uncertainty deep seated within us that wants us to give up on people and love but on the other side of this fear, there are beautiful bonds that you can create and will cherish forever, if only you show a little bit of courage.
“The challenge is that we’re meant to love people and use things but today we use people and love things. The way we communicate says it all, we spend more time holding our phones than we hold each other. We ask Google more questions than we ask each other. A lot of problems in the world would disappear if we stopped talking about each other and started talking to each other. If we didn’t just share all our issues with everyone but talked one on one then we could actually strike up a connection, strike up a conversation, strike up a discussion, a dialogue that helps us solve the unsolvable problems. “ – Jay Shetty
Beautiful relationships aren’t formed in a day. You need to give them some time and effort. You need to nurture them with love and protect them regularly. And in the process, you have to let go of your insecurities, uncertainties, your doubts, and fears. Speak out your deepest fears. Talk about your dreams, goals, and ambitions. Instead of superficial talks, have those heart to heart conversations that move you and touch your soul without the fear of being judged, ridiculed or mocked. Let go of those people who mock you for what you are. Most importantly, make peace with your past. Until you heal your past, your life patterns and relationships will continue to be the same, it’s just the faces that change.
Please, for once, put down your guards and start talking to each other. Instead of playing games, tell your loved ones that you love them every once in a while. This world needs beautiful souls like you to fill it up with infinite possibilities, love, positivity, and happiness. Keep smiling!
Wishing you love and happiness!